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Couples... a Fresh Perspective...
a Turning Point for your relationship

We heard in a popular song recently the poignant lines —

I feel so lonely it’s almost as if you were here

...and were reminded how lonely it is to be part of a couple whose relationship has deteriorated into two camps, is full of conflict, or is just in a grey kind of auto-drive. Lonely and mystifying.

“Look, it’s simple,” one partner says. “If you changed (did more x, stopped doing y), I’d be happy. If you won’t change then it’s clear you don’t love me.”

Trouble is, that’s not the reason at all. It’s an axiom of conflict resolution that to oppose a thing is to maintain it. Since most of us react to that disturbing lack of change in our partners by pressing even harder for it, what we’re really doing is reducing our behaviours down to the one that doesn’t work – down to the one, in fact, most likely to reinforce the “bad” behaviour.

The majority of the couples we see are just about ready to replace the “blame and change” game (i.e. working on the other person) for something quite radical but much more effective: working on self-in-relationship.

This is not to say that we have to assume all blame and to compromise important parts of ourselves in the service of our relationship. David Schnarch, researcher and author, whose work is regarded as the most sophisticated integration of sexuality, intimacy, personal growth and couples therapy available today, writes from a systems perspective. He says that “giving up your individuality to be together is as defeating in the long run as giving up your relationship to maintain your individuality.”

Schnarch looked for ways of staying together that would allow people to stay together and yet remain fully individual.  At Fresh Perspectives you’ll find Susan and Tony do the same. And you’ll also find that they:

  • Are non-judgmental, curious and objective
  • Are experienced, skilled and highly trained
  • Want each of you to discover, express and enact what’s best for you, without sacrificing or suppressing important parts of yourselves
  • Have a special way of changing your perspectives on your partner and on your own participation in the challenges your couple faces
  • Believe and can demonstrate how to achieve the benefits of the central paradox governing all intimate relationships – namely that, the more room you can create in yours, the closer you’ll be
  • Have a keen grasp of and enthusiasm for systems theory, simply the best approach to making permanent, effective change in relationships.

Most couples only have one go at couples counselling. If you don’t find an experienced and highly trained therapist at first, it could happen that, after only one or two sessions, one of you might feel that the process is biased. Sometimes one person will say, “I told you counselling wouldn’t work,” and just refuse to return.

To make sure that you leave your first couples therapy session confident you’re doing the right thing and expecting good outcomes, choose Fresh Perspectives !

DON'T FORGET... If you’re despairing because your relationship’s in trouble and your partner:

  • Won’t acknowledge there’s anything wrong
  • Believes the problems are all your fault
  • States categorically that couples’ therapy “isn’t on”
  • Has attended one or two sessions with you and won’t go back

...there’s hope —    Fresh Perspectives has developed an innovative approach:
Couples Therapy for One



Susan Hamilton
Susan Hamilton

For Appointments
please phone-

Rooms: 02 9328 1379
Tony: 0417 447 242
Susan: 0424 426 110

Susan is a Medibank Private Provider

Normal business hours

Unit 20/442-446 Edgecliff Road
Edgecliff NSW 2027